So I had this convo with a couple of my friends. Whether divorce should be "carried out" if your spouse is having an affair.Whether divorce is necessary at all. And also, if it should be done,(if u have kids) should u divorce before or after ur kids are grown up? Taking into consideration if u divorce when they're young they'll lack the love of both parents and get emotionally hurt, but if u divorce when they're older ur subjecting them to years of unhappy marriage, unhappy parents.

Though I agree that people should divorce if one of them is being unfaithful, for if that happens, it just means that he/she doesn't love u anymore, that's why he/she's being such an asshole. I.e, there's no love left and u shud divorce. I don't know how to deal with the kids issue..

"but if u enter into that marriage, means u love each other and should try to resolve all ur probs for all probs in a r/s can be resolved."
Seriously dude, if u believed that, u wouldn't be single now. Sorry, just speaking the truth.

"people make mistakes and we should try to forgive and forget"
What kind of bullshit is this? You consider infidelity just a "mistake"? There are mistakes and then there are Mistakes with a capital M. I don't consider this a Mistake to be forgiven.

"but I don't think such a thing will happen to me" or "but I'll marry a guy/girl I love and we won't do such stuff"
Lol, yoohoo people, stop living in a dream. And anyway, I said a "IF" question, I didn't ask u guys to apply it to ur own life. Why would u wanna curse urself anyway. Don't come running to me if such stuff happens to u though. I'll sympathise with you, but I'll vote for divorce. I'm a cynic, so?

It's a dillemma though, on the kids issue. I agree that divorce is a bad solution, but it somehow has to be done if things got that bad. Oh and on the issue of being infidel, I'm refering to not just marriages but relationships too. Screw people who lust after another while u're in a relationship/marriage. You're sick and greedy. Having a perfectly good r/s or marriage is not good enough for u, u have to wish for something better. Well I can tell u that There's always someone better. U noe the "yi shan hai you yi shan gao" chinese idiom? Yea. If u don't learn to be happy with what u have, u'll never be happy.

Just for emphasis. Screw you (people who don't understand the meaning of being faithful).

Disclaimer: This blogpost is not "shooting" anyone nor am I "pointing fingers" at anyone. It's just a rant. Get over it.

-May Bo-

♥ 11:35 PM